Have you ever thought about your friends? Who you spend the most amount of time with and how they may influence your life? We all need friends in our lives, without them who would we turn to when things aren’t going well? Or, how can we break old habits and move into the most successful period of our lives with our friends?
Friendship: A form of interpersonal relationship that is generally considered closer than association. Empathy, sympahty, trust, honesty, understanding, and compassion are all words related with a friend.
You are the Average…of the 5 people you hang around the most. Think about the 5 people that you spend the most time with. It’s almost certain that you are the average of all of these people combined. Scary I know, but most likely true. Think about your health, your relationships, your finances, and your job. It’s all directly related to who you hang around with.
Breaking the Cycle
If you make 100K per year, you likely hang around people who make a similar amount and are reaping the benefits of success. If you are struggling with alcoholism, are you spending most of your time in a bar sitting around other alcoholics?
How do we break old habits, especially negative ones without burning bridges or friendships? It’s tough. To move into new areas of success, I would tell you to look at what everyone else is doing, then try doing the exact opposite. 70% of Americans have debt. To get out of debt you need to do exactly the opposite of what most of America is doing. Don’t be afraid to step out and do something different. People will scold you and talk behind your back but these are the people who are mad that you are breaking into new areas of success for your life.
I played golf with a friend over the weekend who is newly out of college. He has been thinking lately about what he wants to do and how he could go about landing a job. He has some great connections through his hometown and has built a great network over the past couple of months. He told me he has been spending most of his time talking with successful business owners that he has made connections with. He thinks he could get an offer to work with one of them sometime soon if the right position is available.
Okay.. re-read the last paragraph. He has been spending most of his time with successful business owners. Do you think that since he is spending most of his time with successful business owners that perhaps he is going to become pretty successful himself? I would bet on it. If he does land a job, others will probably say how lucky he is or how in the world could he be successful in a “real world” situation. The truth is that he is laying the groundwork and building strong connections that can take you a long way in life.
Think about the 5 people you spend the most time with. Are they successful? Do you enjoy spending time with them? Then, if you need to make any changes in who you are associating yourself with, move forward in confidence. You don’t need to completely shut current friends out of your life, but transition into spending more time with people with whom you see yourself as.